What's ideal?

So, it's not ideal. Far from it.

Always having to pretend that there's nothing going on between us... saving things till we're inside my apartment. Then there's this really intense usually 24-hour period where we spend time together, have alot of sex... it's weird. the sex is great, but i can't cum. i get SO close. and stay close for half an hour-an hour. it feels amazing. and i love feeling attractive. but it doesn't do it for me. i can't completely let myself go cuz then i risk getting attached. and... i dunno how much longer i can keep this up.

i want someone to love me, not just call me up for an intensive physical escapade about once a week. i mean, he does care--it's not just sex. we talk and spend non-sex time together too. and we cuddle. and he calls me up just to check in and say hello. but it's not the same. i want to be able to be affectionate. and not have to hide and deny anything. Most importantly, i want to be able to allow myself to fall for the guy...

I guess we'll see...