Intimacy

Just some thoughts...

I came to the conclusion that sex gives you a false sense of closeness, of intimacy. The closeness is great, but after a bit--it just seems like i need something more. It doesn't feel right to think i'm so intimate with someone that i actually barely know. I mean, it feels like we know eachother really well, but most of the time we're just having sex. So, I decided that wasn't a good thing. And we called off sex for a little while.

It's been an amazing few days! We've still been spending every night together. It's just that we don't have sex. Or anything. I mean, we kiss a little, but not even as much as making out.

Then i realized another thing. And that is that it's not really about the lack of other things besides sex, but rather that i don't seem to get the same reaction out of him that i'm used to. i don't really get that I-can't-keep-my-hands-off-you feeling. Which is nice when we're trying to talk, but slightly disconcerting when we're being silly and fooling around. anyway, I have to get to bed, but i'll try to explain more later.

The point is, the lack of sex means more time to cuddle and be affectionate, which is helping re: the not feeling as attractive issue... I'll keep you posted.

Cultural Relativism

The new boy in my life: ES. We met at a purim party-he's a future doctor :)

I had an interesting conversation with ES yesterday. He came over before we went to see Juno (which by the way, is really cute), and we started talking about our day and such. He's been having a clinical week, and they're focusing on deaf people. There's this amazing new technology that gets implanted into the person's head, and sends signals directly to the neurons, thereby bypassing the deafness. It actually allows deaf people to hear--it's amazing. Anyway, ES was telling me how among the deaf community there is now this issue about using this technology, because it detracts from deaf culture. As in, who are we to impose our beliefs that "our" culture, the hearing culture, is better, more "normal"? There are some people in the deaf community who are refusing to give their children access to this technology because they believe that the child is fine, and that they don't want them to lose their deaf culture. Then there are others who claim that denying this technology from a child is child abuse. So there you have it--both sides of the coin.

Now, deaf culture is a somewhat simpler case, because most people would agree that the benefits of hearing outweigh those of being deaf. However, this whole discussion led into cultural relativism in general. For example, about genital mutilation/female circumcision. And from there, Eden said something that somewhat surprised and impressed me. He said that it was sort of funny how we talk about culture as if it's everyone's culture--but really what we're referring to is men's cultural rules; the women have to cover themselves, they have to cut/sew themselves, do certain jobs, wear certain clothing, abide by purity rules, etc.

Basically he was saying that we have to be careful when we talk about this whole cultural relativism business--who's culture are we talking about exactly? I was a little taken aback that he's thought about it in this way. And extremely impressed. This boy keeps getting more and more points :)

Nordstrom has done it again!

Yeah, so i know this may not be such a common choice for a wedding dress, but i can't imagine wearing one of those formal ball gown types... and i think this is adorable. I think i'd get it made long, or at least calf length. but the design is great. and i love the detail.

There's also tons of other dresses--all different styles and degrees of formality, and all for great prices. definitely worth checking out... for bridesmaids or the bride herself...

A Peace Treaty

A friend of mine from school has a sister who came out with a collection called A Peace Treaty. It's a line of ethically produced, artisan-level accessories and apparel for the luxury fashion marketplace. I know, it's a mouthful :) They have some awesome scarves. She and her friend, who conceived A Peace Treaty together, along with some of their friends, model the line, which i think is really cool.

Besides her new line, she has impeccable style--in my opinion anyway... these are two random photos of her. The reason i wanted to put them up here is cuz i thought they'd be great inspiration for those designing a wedding dress. enjoy!

New blogging topics!

So, this is already a blog for random things that i find and want to keep track of or make note of. Starting now, it's also going to be more of a personal thing. Events in my life, relationships, thoughts, crises, and such... I don't know if anyone will be reading it, but that doesn't really matter, cuz it's basically anonymous.

That's all for now.